Date posted: 02/11/2026 3 min read

Dear Abby: how do I raise these difficult questions?

Our HR expert answers questions about workplace health accommodations and whether young applicants can land senior roles.

In our most recent Dear Abby column, we ask a New Zealand HR expert for advice on two common work queries.

Read on to find out what she had to say.


The expert

Sharon McDonald HR professional Sharon McDonald is director of McDonald HR in New Zealand.

Questions

  • I have a health issue that requires some minor accommodations in the workplace. How can I raise this, without putting off an employer or seeming demanding?

    Bringing something like this up at work can feel a bit uncomfortable, but it doesn’t need to be a big conversation. The simplest approach is usually the best: be upfront, keep it practical and focus on what will help you keep doing your job well.

    You don’t need to share personal details. Just let your manager know what’s going on for you and what small adjustment would make things easier. Something like: ‘I’m managing a condition at the moment. It’s mostly fine, but there are a couple of small changes that would really help me stay on top of things. Could we have a quick chat about what might be possible?’

    It’s straightforward and shows you’re looking for a workable solution.

    Managers generally appreciate clarity. Explain what you need, why it matters and how you think things can be adjusted in the short term, without disrupting the team or the workflow. Keeping it calm and practical helps the conversation stay focused on what will support you and the work.

    You’re not being demanding, you’re simply making sure you can do your job well while looking after yourself. Most employers will take that seriously and work with you.

  • I’m hard working and ambitious, and there are some senior roles I would love to apply for, but I’m worried the firms will say I’m too young or lack experience. Is there an accepted ‘minimum’ age or number of years of experience for more senior positions? How can I convince employers to take my applications seriously?

    It’s completely understandable to feel unsure about applying for roles with more responsibility when you’re earlier in your career. Plenty of people worry they’ll be seen as ‘too young’, but employers are far more interested in how you present yourself and the substance of what you’ve actually done.

    If you’re aiming for a role with more scope, make your application feel thoughtful and intentional. Always include a cover letter and use it to show why you’re a match for the role. Talk about how you work, the responsibilities you’re comfortable holding and the outcomes you’ve delivered. Be upfront about your salary expectations; it shows confidence and respect for everyone’s time. Make sure your CV and letter clearly explain how your experience lines up with the role and what makes you stand out.

    Take the time to understand the organisation and what success looks like in that job. If the advertisement leaves things unclear, acknowledge it and explain how you’d approach those areas. And if the hiring manager has provided contact details and invited enquiries, reach out. A short, friendly, well-planned conversation can help you make a strong impression and show genuine initiative.

    Position yourself as someone who already operates at that level. When ambition is backed by evidence, employers pay attention.

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